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Life is a Mirror of You

August 21st, 2007

The most meaningful change within your life is usually the result of changes in personal beliefs, which then result in changes in your behavior and expectations. For this week (and for however long you find it of use) I want you to start acting as if the perceived flaws in others behavior is really all just a mirror of your own flaws. As all of the flaws you see are a mirror of your own, you no longer have any reason to blaming and complain about the behavior of others, because they are just like you. The next step is to then identify ways to improve the flaws you have identified within “the mirror”.

Examples:
If you think a family member is not supportive of you, then you must identify within your own life greater opportunities to be supportive of others who need it.

If you think your lover is not affectionate enough, then find the areas where you are not as affectionate as you can be, and then work on being even more affectionate everyday.

If you think your boss is a slacker, then identify the areas where you could get more done, but don’t because of lack of accountability or drive.

Some would say, “but this doesn’t fix the problems that others have when dealing with me”, and to that my answer is as your beliefs change, so does your circumstance. You can spend your life (and each moment is spent, never to be recovered) complaining or trying to understand the motivations and actions of others, or you can spend your life improving who you are and how you treat others.

As you improve yourself, you improve your situation. Complaining may make you feel good for the moment, or make you feel superior to those who have so many issues (by your estimation), but at the end of the day, complaining rarely results in a change in others behavior, nor in lasting improvement your situation. The only reason why complaining and blaming seem like good things to do, is because as you look around you it seems like everyone else is doing it and supporting it.

However, your life was not created to be like everyone else’s, your life needs to be based in your exceptional skills, talents, dreams, beliefs, and loves. Don’t live an expected life; live an exceptional life. The time we spend complaining about others is the artful avoidance of dealing with what we find unacceptable within ourselves. If you leave yourself in a hurtful situation, that is not the fault of the person in front of you; it is a choice you are making for yourself. Where you have influence, implement change; where you do not focus on that where you do.

Your words will never change those who do not wish to change, so reserve them for those who will listen. You cannot change others, but everyday is filled with infinite opportunities for you to improve. Focus on becoming who you need to be, and the opinions and actions of others will fade in importance within your life. Reality and those who surround you are a mirror of your beliefs, so when you see a problem, heal it within yourself.

Love,
Mario

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